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Power and control issues may be part of the dynamics of the inter-personal relationship of the marital partners or more significant pathology accompanying complex individual psychological and addiction problems. This is a relationship issue exacerbated by the breakdown of the marriage and the emotional divorce.
Parents who are divorcing come with the baggage of the emotional hurt and anger related to the divorce, and the interplay of beliefs and communication patterning. The communication and conflict resolution is likely to be lacking Either or both parents may say the other is unreasonable. In response, they may take a firm stand that, the other parent, seems unreasonable. Thus, both may appear to be unreasonable to the other. Such perceptions add to their resolve. Standing firm appears to be unreasonable and rigid to others and causes that parent to remain firm and rigid. This pattern is one of self-sustaining conflict. For example one parent is more of a disciplinarian and the other parent becomes more permissive in response. The stricter the one parent becomes, the more permissive the other parent becomes. The extremes are not either?s real positions, but the power and control struggle pushes each into rigid reactions.
One there is identification of this issue as an issue by either party, even if there is a denial of any validity to the claim, both parties should enter into a stipulation prior to proceeding to a regarding evaluation, intervention, monitoring, protections and consequences.
Family lawyers see this pattern repeatedly in a legal dissolution of marriage, whether this is whether a child should attend public or private school, play contact sports, or go to bed a certain hour. The key is to educate the client as to the real issue-power and control, and that it really does not involved the child or parenting. If power and control issues permeate the parents relationship, a professional evaluation may be indicated for many reasons; the parties will benefit from the evaluation findings and recommendations, a plan for future may be developed that serves the best interest of the individuals, the marriage and the children, and, if there is a problem and no compliance with interventions, immediate protections can take place. Ultimately, if it becomes detrimental issue impacting the children?s safety and well being, the evaluation and testimony from the expert will be admissible by prior agreement, if there is any violation of following the expert?s recommendations. It may be that the expert determines that the children need to be evaluated to see if there is damage to them and to determine right threatment and interventions for the children and the entire family.
Immediate and competent intervention and individual and family counseling should be recommended to focus the parties on a solution and new way to interact. The parents need skilful training and education and a refocus to the best interest of the child and the detriment to the child of their course of action. The parties need a well-defined and structured communication plan which can be accomplished through a therapeutic mediation.
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Posted in Children · February 13th, 2010 · Comments (0)
You definitely noticed a number of little girls having Hello Kitty purses to school and within place. Likewise themed school bags can be a usual play ground picture. The reason is, the Hello Kitty cartoon character is well known as well as beloved of girls all around the planet. Created around the 1970’s in Japan, this plain white cat features a whole cast of friends surrounding her in her life, together with her mother, father, and sister. She boasts a number of buddies, and her whole circle of acquaintances are recognized for their perfect manners and supporting natures.
There exists an entire series of merchandise related to them, whose full name is Kitty White. Affordable costume bracelets, balloons, and streamers are popular favors at kids birthday parties. Thousands of kids don clothing with the cat’s face on shirts, pants, shoes, and even socks alike. Hello Kitty Purses are generally plastic or cloth and emblazoned with this cat’s face, and are one more aspect of the full collection of apparel you can find using the Kitty While design.
Not only will you discover girls toting with Hello Kitty items in America, you’ll find it all over the world. The cat is a bona fide worldwide trend. You’ll find her represented on items accomplishing many things, from merely seating there looking cute, to writing, having snacks, playing tunes, and traveling. You will find an animated cartoon series connected to her, and also the whole theme park in Japan. There is virtually no corner of the globe where Hello Kitty is not accepted.
You won’t have to look far to find Hello Kitty Necklaces, Hello Kitty Rings or other themed products. It’s highly possible that your neighborhood budget shop will stock her merchandise. Wal- Mart does, and so does Target. You can purchase almost all items for relatively little money, though a few special, high- end items for more fervent fans. You can also shop for merchandise on the internet at a variety of stores specialized in the illustrious cat. If you have a child that loves this cat, it?s likely she’ll forever fancy her, as many child fans turn into adult fans. So, you want to make sure you also have a source for Hello Kitty items to hold your little kitty enthusiast delighted.
FTS
Tags: Gifts, girl, Hello Kitty, Shopping
Posted in Children · January 24th, 2010 · Comments (0)